Ruchi's column will appear in the Cleveland Jewish News every other week starting August 11th.

An Orthodox woman, wife and mother of seven, Ruchi Koval is the co-founder and director of the Jewish Family Experience in Cleveland. She is a certified parenting coach, educator, author, musician and motivational speaker. Her first book, "Conversations with G-d," was released in 2016. Find Ruchi on Facebook, Instagram, her blog at outoftheorthobox.com, and follow her podcasts and videos on SoundCloud, WhatsApp and YouTube. Ruchi was a recipient of the CJN's 18 Difference Maker award in 2015.

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I never really thought of myself as a perfectionist; more like a person who likes to do things well. But, I think that’s like calling Hurricane Katrina a “rainy day.” Over the years, it has become clear to me that the distress I feel at doing things imperfectly is hurting me and others.

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School is ending or over, depending on which school your people are in, and yet again we are switching a child to a new school. I feel like we do this every year, probably because we do.

My baby is turning 9 and I’m so grateful for long views and second chances. As our oldest kids are now young adults, my regrets for my parenting mistakes when they were small play a big role in how we parent this little one. 

“After Pesach” – the words are haunting me now. For weeks as we prepared for the holiday of Passover, everything else got relegated to the “later” pile: after Pesach. Camp forms – after Pesach. Figure out why the bank is charging my daughter a $7 fee each month – after Pesach. Deal with the …

Passover conjures up a host of Jewish memories: bubbies and zaidies; matzah ball soup; cousins running around; staying up too late amid sticky grape juice and strains of dayenu. If there’s one epically memorable Jewish holiday, complete with the songs, sounds and tastes, it’s Passover.

I spent last week roaming around Harry Potter’s Wizarding World in Orlando, Fla., with two of our kids over spring break. Let me just get this over with: I’m a “heathen muggle.” For the non-Potterheads what that means is that not only did I stop reading the series after the second book, but …

There is something very interesting that happens when you teach your teenage child how to drive: you develop a phantom brake in your right leg when you are sitting in the passenger seat. In some part of your brain, you know this brake isn’t real, but it still makes you feel in control, so th…

During the recent polar vortex, I was blessed to be vacationing in Miami Beach, Fla. I was invited to speak in Palm Beach Gardens and my daughters were on winter break at the Hebrew Academy of Cleveland, so we booked tickets and flew south. The plan was to stay in my grandmother’s condo for …